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Feminine Practice

Maria attended one of our retreats a few years ago. Now in her fifties, she has been practicing meditation, which she had learned from a well-known Indian guru, for more than thirty years. She had a very calm, empty, silent presence. She dressed in plain, very sensible clothes, and her gray hair was cut in […]


Judgement Day

All kinds of prophecies exist: Christian, Mayan, Hopi and Vedic, predicting that there is going to be a time coming when there is a judgement day: when some people go to Heaven, who are saved, and some people are plunged into great doom. There was a lot of hoopla in the late 2000’s, building up […]


What do you want?

I arrived at Joey’s upstairs apartment at four o’clock. He was waiting for me, sitting in the same little room where he had delivered his life story to us a couple of nights before. A cup of tea was waiting for me on the table, next to his own. He looked at me for a […]


Drop Away

“You’ve got so caught up in trying to win the game, or should I say trying not to lose, you’ve forgotten how to play for fun.” “But you can’t do that kind of thing, its completely irresponsible,” I said, realizing I was repeating myself. “On the contrary,” said Joey, “I feel very able to respond […]

Slow Down

In the midst of any activity during the day, raising a cup of tea to your lips, reaching out to answer the phone, continue doing exactly as you have been doing, but slow your movements down. Move at a quarter of the usual speed, or even less. Become aware of the minute details involved: the […]


Time-release Formula

“You know, Joey,” I began. “None of these lessons are exactly easy. It could take me years of practice to master even one of them.” Joey opened the cupboard above the kitchen counter. Dozens of kinds of herbal teas. He opened his eyes wide, and whistled. “What kind of tea do you want?” “Whatever. Whatever […]

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Give it Your Best Shot Every Time

For the last several months I have been coaching a brilliant young man who works at one of the world’s largest technology companies.  In our coaching we have worked on developing an extraordinary idea, which could change the face of the world.  It is inspiring.  Because he is a little shy, I agreed to go […]

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The Yoga Class

Yoga has never been a primary strength for me. I prefer gentler approaches to caring for the body, like taking long baths, lying in bed, or receiving massage. Sam soon had us doing things I would not have thought possible or advisable. We had to stretch our legs straight out in front of us, and […]


Freedom by Fire

Guest Blog by Chris Johnson I could hear the phone ringing inside my apartment as I fumbled through my keys looking for the door key, and dropping them instead. Picked them up, fumble, fumble, key sliding in the lock with a satisfying thunk. Key turns and the sound of the ringing grows suddenly louder. There’s […]


Three Good Reasons to Become a Coach

I am aware of three good and valid reasons why someone might consider taking a coaching training. There is no hierarchy of merit in these. Each is perfectly right for a particular person. The first reason to train to become a coach is because you love the idea of receiving support from your peers and […]


The Arrest

Out past Yarrowville the trouble began. We were on a small, two-lane road, very straight, lined by tall yew trees standing naked to the sky, like anorexic models. As the Eagles declared I’m already gone, Joey’s foot hit the floor. The speedometer rose steadily, 50, 55, 60, on and on it went.  “We have to […]


Recreate Yourself

Many centuries ago, the poet Bunan wrote: Die while alive, 
And be absolutely dead. Then do whatever you want; It’s all good. Bunan is not talking about a physical death, or causing any harm to the body. He is talking about a willingness to let go constantly of the definitions you have placed upon yourself, […]


Relax and Wait

The key to accessing a deeper source of thought and action is the willingness to relax and wait. In Iago’s trance, “I don’t know” is to be avoided at all costs. Translucent action requires the wisdom of “I don’t know” as its firm foundation. Through practice, we come to recognize that the thought machine is […]


Why do we get addicted?

Why do people smoke cigarettes, or eat junk food, or look at pornography on the internet? You would be astounded by the statistics of how many males in the United States look at pornography on the internet. I have worked with many people who had that kind of addiction going on. A client will say […]


No Preparation Required

Suppose your glasses are sitting on your nose, but you have the idea, “I’ve lost my glasses.” You look under the sofa-not there.  You look under the cushions-not there.  You look under your bed, you look on top of the medicine cabinets, you look in your car, you look in the garden; you conduct a […]


How to Find the Right Coach

It is hard to believe that modern day life coaching is a profession that is less than 25 years old. Go back to the late 80’s and if anyone said “I’m a coach” the immediate answer would be, “Oh really, what sport?” Today there are life coaches, relationship coaches, executive coaches, divorce coaches, wellness coaches, […]


Why Do We Avoid our Greatness?

I’ve written eight books so far, and I just came out with the latest one, Better Than Sex. The books that I’ve written previously were a little more erudite, many had footnotes, a long bibliography, and careful references. About a year ago I realized “Hey, I’m in my 50’s, sooner or later I’ve just got […]