This is an excerpt from Conscious Men, written by John Gray and Arjuna Ardagh. Contemporary man faces an interesting and unprecedented dilemma, one that our male ancestors have never faced before in this same way. If we go just back just a few generations, all over the world, it was very clear what you were […]
This is an excerpt from Conscious Men, written by John Gray and Arjuna Ardagh. When men are in pain, the first tendency is often to withdraw and pull away. It is the primitive reaction of fight or flight. If a man feels trapped, instinctively he moves into defense or even into attack. So if you […]
This is an excerpt from Conscious Men, written by John Gray and Arjuna Ardagh. When a man watches a woman, or even a couple, having sex on a screen and he masturbates, he will release huge amounts of dopamine, much more than he would with regular sex. During this kind of impersonal sex, very […]
This is an excerpt from Conscious Men, written by John Gray and Arjuna Ardagh. The great majority of women we have both worked with say they want to be with a man they can trust. For a man to do what he said he would do, but also to tell the truth about it, is […]
This is an excerpt from Conscious Men, written by John Gray and Arjuna Ardagh. A Conscious Man forms deep, sustainable relationships with other men in a way that supports them both to deepen in their masculinity. For most men, a few very deep friendships will be all that they need. In fact, for some […]
This is an excerpt from Conscious Men, written by John Gray and Arjuna Ardagh. We have both seen, again and again, that a woman feels more relaxed, more loved and more connected when she can speak freely about her feelings and her man can listen to her. It is not always easy or automatic for […]
This is an excerpt from Conscious Men, written by John Gray and Arjuna Ardagh. A Conscious Man knows how to bring humor into a situation from his inner disposition more than any particular action or words. He has just enough distance from his personality and the dramas of life that he can laugh at himself. […]
This is an excerpt from Conscious Men, written by John Gray and Arjuna Ardagh. The Conscious Man learns to balance his masculine and feminine sides, which allows him to have awareness of his higher purpose in life in a way that is also sensitive to the changing environment in which he is moving. He […]
This is an excerpt from Conscious Men, written by John Gray and Arjuna Ardagh. Today, both men and women want to experience a multidimensional, fulfilled life: they both want to have interesting jobs and careers, they both want to create long-term satisfying relationships, they both want to create and participate in a happy family life, […]
This is an excerpt from Conscious Men, written by John Gray and Arjuna Ardagh. Researchers like Elizabeth Kubler-Ross tell us that people who have a “near death experience” often describe seeing their whole life flash before their eyes. They realize that they had been chasing all the wrong dreams. Later, they stop pursuing money and fame […]
This is an excerpt from Conscious Men, written by John Gray and Arjuna Ardagh. Here are some of the parts of us that may have gotten locked in the basement and get in the way of feeling pain and letting it go. Avoidance Arthur At the most primitive level, our whole motivation as men is […]
This is an excerpt from Conscious Men, written by John Gray and Arjuna Ardagh. There are many dimensions to listening. One is just like the sky: to be still and receive. Simply listening to someone sharing challenges and issues may in itself be the solution that is required. Particularly for a woman, when she feels […]
This is an excerpt from Conscious Men, written by John Gray and Arjuna Ardagh. When men get together with other men, they do it in a very different way than how you spend time with other women. This may require him to edit himself when he is with you. The way men talk sometimes with […]
This is an excerpt from Conscious Men, written by John Gray and Arjuna Ardagh. When a man feels stressed, he may want to forget or change his commitment because he forgets his sense of purpose, and he just says, “I know I said I’d do it today, but I’ll do it next week instead.” When […]
This is an excerpt from Conscious Men, written by John Gray and Arjuna Ardagh. Here are some of the parts of every man to be mindful of that can get in the way of the hero’s journey to learning to trust yourself more in keeping your word. Rigid Rodney If you were raised in a […]
This is an excerpt from Conscious Men, by John Gray and Arjuna Ardagh. We have learned that the most important gift a woman can give to a man is to communicate her needs: to find ways to tell him honestly when she wants to have sex, when she wants to be sensuous and cuddle, […]
This is an excerpt from Conscious Men, a book I co-authored with John Gray. Men sometimes tell us they do not know how to express love to a woman in a way that means something to her. Men get very easily hung up on the feeling of succeeding or failing and can feel unsuccessful […]
This is an excerpt from Conscious Men, written by John Gray and Arjuna Ardagh. All men have feelings, ranging from shame and humiliation, to anger and outrage, to tenderness and compassion. The primary difference between different men is not what we each feel, but our capacity to be with it and express it in a […]
This is an excerpt from Conscious Men, a book I co-authored with John Gray. As we grow more in conscious masculinity, we discover that we can transform pain into pleasure simply by staying present. The charge of negative emotion dissipates just by holding it and by not resisting it. A man who has learned to […]
This is an excerpt from Conscious Men, a book I co-authored with John Gray. When your partner does not have so much to give, it is easy to feel resentful, and this can sabotage the relationship. When we learn to let go of that, her occasional judgments and reactions to you are no longer […]
