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The Centrality of Practice

As a coach, I meet with my clients every one or two weeks. We talk together about the awe-inspiring difference they want to make to the world, and I ask them questions to bring forth their best ideas. My clients also have access to me as they need it. They’ve got an emergency hotline they […]

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Just Sitting

Here was a recent question about Radical Brilliance: ”If you had to pick one activity or practice, above all else, to enhance your brilliance what would it be?” I think if I could choose any one thing that makes the most difference, my choice would be: no thing. The practice I have found to bring forth […]

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The Double Bind

You may or may not be familiar by now with my new book, Radical Brilliance. It describes a cycle which allows you to dedicate your life to having new and original ideas to serve the evolution of humanity. If that sounds completely foreign to you, you can read up on it here. One of the […]

Become the Other

This is an excerpt from my book Leap Before You Look.    When you find yourself courting conflict with another person, Go somewhere alone where you can be undisturbed. Put two cushions down on the bed or on the floor. Sit on one of them and close your eyes. Imagine the other person is sitting before […]

Dropping the Blame Game

A few days ago, I was driving from an appointment in Olympia, Washington, to the airport in Seattle to fly home. It was around 5 o’clock in the evening, but the traffic was surprisingly moving forward fluidly. Just after I passed the Nisqually National Wildlife Refuge, I was on an open stretch of freeway. The […]

The Most Powerful Words

My friend, Jonathan Robinson, loves to tell this delightful story whenever he has the chance. I am not sure how much of it is true and how much of it is fabrication, but either way the story works. As the myth goes, Jonathan heard about a great teacher in India. He was so impressed with […]

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When meditation is not good for you

As I travel from city to city offering Awakening Coaching Intensives, I hear statements from so many people like “I’m not very good at meditation’” or “my meditation does not go very deep,” or “I just sit and there is an endless buzzing of thoughts.” In my opinion, and experience, sitting quietly and watching your […]

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Why Do We Avoid our Greatness?

I’ve written eight books so far, and I just came out with the latest one, Better Than Sex. The books that I’ve written previously were a little more erudite, many had footnotes, a long bibliography, and careful references. About a year ago I realized “Hey, I’m in my 50’s, sooner or later I’ve just got […]

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Marriage

Sing the song of this moment, Instead of the chorus of “What Might Happen,” The litanies of “Sometimes” and “On Occasion” and “I Remember.” Sing the song of the perfection of Now. Offer your hand. Deepen your marriage to This Moment.

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Tailor-made Practices

I just got back from six weeks traveling and teaching in Europe. I worked on my book in Greece, traveled through Italy with my son and his girlfriend, and taught the Change Agents University retreat with my friend Luis Diaz. My time away culminated in the Awakening Coaching Training in Germany with 44 people from […]

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Who Is Here? A practice

Right now, sitting where you are, reading these words, take a few moments to close your eyes and feel your body. Settle yourself . . . relax . . . come fully into this moment. Can you see the print on this page? It is seen, right? But seen by whom? In this very moment, […]

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How We Define Ourselves

“Trailing clouds of glory do we come, from God who is our home,” wrote William Wordsworth. As preverbal babies, we experience ourselves as limitlessness. At one with what we see and feel, we have no need to define ourselves. We are both nothing and everything. Then Iago imposes a sense of limitation, of something missing, […]

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Enter The Darkness – A practice

Create a room that is perfectly dark.  You might need to tape black plastic over the windows,  And lay a towel at the bottom of the door.  Make it so dark that you can sit with your eyes open  And see not a single chink of light.  Now sit in that darkness, with your eyes […]

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Calling Back Judgement: Just Like Me

This practice, from my 2008 book Leap Before You Look, was also featured in the new film Awake in the Dream.  It is short and simple to use, but remarkably effective and transformative.  Try it out, and post your experiences in the space below. Whenever a judgment or evaluation Arises within you, Whether positive or […]

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Masculine and Feminine Practice

Last week we finished a weekend seminar  in Vienna: at one time the home of Mozart, Beethoven, Sigmund Freud, Gustav Mahler and many others. My host took me to Theater an der Wien: the oldest opera house in the city, where The Magic Flute and many other great operas had their premiere. Afterwards we went […]

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Celebrate Dependency

When you start to feel needy or insecure, celebrate it completely. Ask your partner to sit in a chair or on the sofa, and sit at your partner’s feet for a few minutes. Enter into your fear of abandonment, the need to be loved completely. Don’t leave me. Don’t leave me. I beg you. I […]

Getting permission to flow

Maria attended one of our retreats a few years ago. Now in her fifties, she has been practicing meditation, which she had learned from a well-known Indian guru, for more than thirty years. She had a very calm, empty, silent presence. She dressed in plain, very sensible clothes, and her gray hair was cut in […]