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Why Do We Avoid our Greatness?

I’ve written eight books so far, and I just came out with the latest one, Better Than Sex. The books that I’ve written previously were a little more erudite, many had footnotes, a long bibliography, and careful references. About a year ago I realized “Hey, I’m in my 50’s, sooner or later I’ve just got […]

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Marriage

Sing the song of this moment, Instead of the chorus of “What Might Happen,” The litanies of “Sometimes” and “On Occasion” and “I Remember.” Sing the song of the perfection of Now. Offer your hand. Deepen your marriage to This Moment.

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Tailor-made Practices

I just got back from six weeks traveling and teaching in Europe. I worked on my book in Greece, traveled through Italy with my son and his girlfriend, and taught the Change Agents University retreat with my friend Luis Diaz. My time away culminated in the Awakening Coaching Training in Germany with 44 people from […]

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Who Is Here? A practice

Right now, sitting where you are, reading these words, take a few moments to close your eyes and feel your body. Settle yourself . . . relax . . . come fully into this moment. Can you see the print on this page? It is seen, right? But seen by whom? In this very moment, […]

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How We Define Ourselves

“Trailing clouds of glory do we come, from God who is our home,” wrote William Wordsworth. As preverbal babies, we experience ourselves as limitlessness. At one with what we see and feel, we have no need to define ourselves. We are both nothing and everything. Then Iago imposes a sense of limitation, of something missing, […]

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Enter The Darkness – A practice

Create a room that is perfectly dark.  You might need to tape black plastic over the windows,  And lay a towel at the bottom of the door.  Make it so dark that you can sit with your eyes open  And see not a single chink of light.  Now sit in that darkness, with your eyes […]

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Calling Back Judgement: Just Like Me

This practice, from my 2008 book Leap Before You Look, was also featured in the new film Awake in the Dream.  It is short and simple to use, but remarkably effective and transformative.  Try it out, and post your experiences in the space below. Whenever a judgment or evaluation Arises within you, Whether positive or […]

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Masculine and Feminine Practice

Last week we finished a weekend seminar  in Vienna: at one time the home of Mozart, Beethoven, Sigmund Freud, Gustav Mahler and many others. My host took me to Theater an der Wien: the oldest opera house in the city, where The Magic Flute and many other great operas had their premiere. Afterwards we went […]

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Celebrate Dependency

When you start to feel needy or insecure, celebrate it completely. Ask your partner to sit in a chair or on the sofa, and sit at your partner’s feet for a few minutes. Enter into your fear of abandonment, the need to be loved completely. Don’t leave me. Don’t leave me. I beg you. I […]

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Getting permission to flow

Maria attended one of our retreats a few years ago. Now in her fifties, she has been practicing meditation, which she had learned from a well-known Indian guru, for more than thirty years. She had a very calm, empty, silent presence. She dressed in plain, very sensible clothes, and her gray hair was cut in […]

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What to do when someone is upset with you

Before we go any further you might ask the legitimate question,  “What are your qualifications, Arjuna Ardagh,  to write an article on this subject? Are you a psychologist?” “No, I am not.” “Are you a licensed psychotherapist?” No, also not.” “Do you have a Pd.D. in communications?” “Ummmmm.  No, I’m afraid not.” “So what on […]

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Breathe Totally

Notice how you are already breathing in this moment. Is the breath coming more into the upper part of the body? Is it reaching the diaphragm? Or is the breath reaching all the way down to the lower belly? After just watching the way you are breathing for a couple of minutes, Begin to bring […]

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Couples Puja

  This is a powerful practice to do with your intimate partner. Once you are awake in the morning, Sit opposite each other on the bed. Take turns doing this practice. Look into one of your partner’s eyes. One of you will go first: When it is your turn Express love, devotion and surrender to […]

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Feel Tension and Welcome It

  Here’s a passage from my book Leap Before You Look: Scan your body with awareness. Seek out a place of tension or discomfort, And rest there with your attention. Feel this place exactly as it is. Feel it, be with it, just as it is. Feel it not so that it will go away, […]

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Give Appreciation

Here is a practice from my book Leap Before You Look: Everyday, make sure you express five things that you appreciate about your partner. You can sprinkle these appreciations throughout the day. Or you can sit down and do them all at once as a structured practice, Which will only take a few minutes. Appreciate […]

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Living in the Green Zone

      There is a small group of people, from all over the world, who work together on delivering the Awakening Coaching training: both online and at live events.  Over the last months we have developed a code language that we share between us, which has greatly improved our flow of communication, reduced stress […]

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Our Natural Vision

Vision is vital. It is the fuel that motivates action. It gives meaning to our lives, the aspiration to reach beyond our limits. Vision tells us where to put our energy, allows us to push through unforeseen obstacles, and, when a group of people work together, it is the cohesive force that keeps them motivated […]

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The Art of Unmanifesting

One of the turning points of my life happened more than 20 years ago, when I went to sit with an almost unknown spiritual teacher and writer. There were just a few people gathered together meeting with her. This was the late 80’s, when “manifesting” was the latest greatest thing. So somebody asked the question, […]

Share Witholds

Here is practice from my book Leap Before You Look. Sit together with your intimate partner Or a close friend. Decide who will be partner A, And who will be B. Partner A, You are going to share five withholds: Something significant And relevant to your relationship That has not been said. This could be […]