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Celebrate Dependency

When you start to feel needy or insecure, celebrate it completely. Ask your partner to sit in a chair or on the sofa, and sit at your partner’s feet for a few minutes. Enter into your fear of abandonment, the need to be loved completely. Don’t leave me. Don’t leave me. I beg you. I […]

Getting permission to flow

Maria attended one of our retreats a few years ago. Now in her fifties, she has been practicing meditation, which she had learned from a well-known Indian guru, for more than thirty years. She had a very calm, empty, silent presence. She dressed in plain, very sensible clothes, and her gray hair was cut in […]

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What to do when someone is upset with you

Before we go any further you might ask the legitimate question,  “What are your qualifications, Arjuna Ardagh,  to write an article on this subject? Are you a psychologist?” “No, I am not.” “Are you a licensed psychotherapist?” No, also not.” “Do you have a Pd.D. in communications?” “Ummmmm.  No, I’m afraid not.” “So what on […]

Breathe Totally

Notice how you are already breathing in this moment. Is the breath coming more into the upper part of the body? Is it reaching the diaphragm? Or is the breath reaching all the way down to the lower belly? After just watching the way you are breathing for a couple of minutes, Begin to bring […]

Couples Puja

  This is a powerful practice to do with your intimate partner. Once you are awake in the morning, Sit opposite each other on the bed. Take turns doing this practice. Look into one of your partner’s eyes. One of you will go first: When it is your turn Express love, devotion and surrender to […]

Feel Tension and Welcome It

  Here’s a passage from my book Leap Before You Look: Scan your body with awareness. Seek out a place of tension or discomfort, And rest there with your attention. Feel this place exactly as it is. Feel it, be with it, just as it is. Feel it not so that it will go away, […]

Give Appreciation

Here is a practice from my book Leap Before You Look: Everyday, make sure you express five things that you appreciate about your partner. You can sprinkle these appreciations throughout the day. Or you can sit down and do them all at once as a structured practice, Which will only take a few minutes. Appreciate […]

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Living in the Green Zone

      There is a small group of people, from all over the world, who work together on delivering the Awakening Coaching training: both online and at live events.  Over the last months we have developed a code language that we share between us, which has greatly improved our flow of communication, reduced stress […]

Our Natural Vision

Vision is vital. It is the fuel that motivates action. It gives meaning to our lives, the aspiration to reach beyond our limits. Vision tells us where to put our energy, allows us to push through unforeseen obstacles, and, when a group of people work together, it is the cohesive force that keeps them motivated […]

The Art of Unmanifesting

One of the turning points of my life happened more than 20 years ago, when I went to sit with an almost unknown spiritual teacher and writer. There were just a few people gathered together meeting with her. This was the late 80’s, when “manifesting” was the latest greatest thing. So somebody asked the question, […]

Share Witholds

Here is practice from my book Leap Before You Look. Sit together with your intimate partner Or a close friend. Decide who will be partner A, And who will be B. Partner A, You are going to share five withholds: Something significant And relevant to your relationship That has not been said. This could be […]

Enough

So what’s the most beautiful word in the whole English language? Out of 470,000 words to choose from, which single word, combined with it’s meaning, is the most liberating, the most joyful, and offers the greatest hope for our future as a species? How about “antiestablishmentarianism?” Terrific for Scrabble scores, yes. But we can do […]

Ask, “Who Am I?”

Here is a passage from my book Leap Before You Look.   Be still and listen To the sounds around you. The sounds are heard, aren’t they? Heard perfectly. Now shift the attention from the sound To that which is hearing the sounds. What is that? What sound does that itself make? Ask yourself, who […]

Celebrate Dependency

Here’s a passage from my book Leap Before You Look. When you start to feel needy or insecure, Celebrate it completely. Ask your partner to sit in a chair or on the sofa, A nd sit at your partner’s feet for a few minutes. Enter into your fear of abandonment, The need to be loved […]

Pure Waiting

Here’s a passage from my book Leap Before You Look. Whenever you can, sit and wait. There is no need to distract yourself By filling the gap with random activity. At the gate at the airport, In the few minutes before it’s time to leave the house, While waiting for the bus, Rather than picking […]

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Ask, “Is It True?”

Here’s a passage from my book Leap Before You Look. When you notice yourself needing to be right, When you notice your mind is strongly attached to any conclusion, Stop and ask yourself, “Is it true?” Do I really know this? Is this an absolute, objective, unchanging fact? Would every sane person in the world […]

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Listen With All of You

Here’s a passage from my book Leap Before You Look.When your partner or anyone close to you is speaking to you, Whether telling you a story, lodging a complaint, or sharing a feeling, Give your undivided attention. Listen with all of you: With your ears, with your heart, with your skin, with your breath. Pay […]

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Welcome All Feeling

Here is a passage from my book Leap Before You Look. Whenever you feel provoked, irritated, or pulled to make a response, Stop. Sit back in the saddle. Scan your body and notice what you are feeling. Seek out any areas of strong emotional tension; feel what is there. If it helps you, label it: […]

Stare into the Open Sky

This is a practice from my book Leap Before You Look. Lie down on your backUnder a cloudless sky. Open yourself to the nature of infinity. Let yourself move out infinitely in any direction And be soberly present with the unavoidable fact That as far as you travel, You are still only halfway there. There […]