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How to Find and Keep a Conscious Man

During the last one hundred years we have seen a dramatic reinvention of the role of both men and women.  It is hard to believe, but in 1914 women still didn’t have the right to vote, because everybody (men and women) agreed that women didn’t have the intelligence to make political choices.  No-one today, at […]

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What does "relationship" mean?

What does “relationship” mean? It implies the relating of two separate identities, two distinct points of view on the same situation. Separation is not your original nature, not the Self in its purity, that is in relationship with another. Within silence, peace, infinity, there can be no relationship, because there is no other. It is […]

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Rotate the Boss

Every Saturday morning we clean the house. We start by sitting down together and listing all the jobs that need to be done. Then everyone gets to be the boss for half an hour. We always start with Shuba, our youngest. While he is boss, everyone must do what he says. He is the king. He will check if […]

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What to do when someone is upset with you

Before we go any further you might ask the legitimate question,  “What are your qualifications, Arjuna Ardagh,  to write an article on this subject? Are you a psychologist?” “No, I am not.” “Are you a licensed psychotherapist?” No, also not.” “Do you have a Pd.D. in communications?” “Ummmmm.  No, I’m afraid not.” “So what on […]

Couples Puja

      This is a powerful practice to do with your intimate partner. Once you are awake in the morning, Sit opposite each other on the bed. Take turns doing this practice. Look into one of your partner’s eyes. One of you will go first: When it is your turn Express love, devotion and […]

Give Appreciation

Here is a practice from my book Leap Before You Look: Everyday, make sure you express five things that you appreciate about your partner. You can sprinkle these appreciations throughout the day. Or you can sit down and do them all at once as a structured practice, Which will only take a few minutes. Appreciate […]

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Big Event

In honor of Valentine’s Day next week, here is a passage about sex from my book The Translucent Revolution. All sex, in fact all life everywhere, is about the meeting of masculine and feminine energy, the meeting of consciousness and light. This does not mean that men always represent the masculine, or that women always […]

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Love Deeply

We’re coming up on Valentine’s Day, which is a time when all of us give a little extra nurturing to intimate relationship. If you’ve been married for 40 years, this might be a time to express your gratitude for all that’s been shared. If you’re newly together, this is the season to commit more deeply. […]

Share Witholds

Here is practice from my book Leap Before You Look. Sit together with your intimate partner Or a close friend. Decide who will be partner A, And who will be B. Partner A, You are going to share five withholds: Something significant And relevant to your relationship That has not been said. This could be […]

Connection

Here is a passage from my book The Translucent Revolution. Translucent parenting begins not so much with your connection to your child, but with your connection to yourself. When we feel fully connected to who we are, deeper than concepts, we are also connected to reality as it is, and this allows us to really […]

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Spontaneous Forgiveness

Here’s a passage from my book The Translucent Revolution.   With the willingness to be less defined comes a loosening of our grip on the past. The past is of little use when you have no case to defend. If the trial is dismissed as boring and irrelevant, you can send the witnesses home to […]

Celebrate Dependency

Here’s a passage from my book Leap Before You Look. When you start to feel needy or insecure, Celebrate it completely. Ask your partner to sit in a chair or on the sofa, A nd sit at your partner’s feet for a few minutes. Enter into your fear of abandonment, The need to be loved […]

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How Blueberries can save your Relationship

Chameli and I just got done with the most incredible week in Greece. We met with 22 single people and couples for an all-out, nothing-held-back dive into the exploration of the Deeper Love. I think this was really one of the best weeks of our lives together.The incredible beauty of the island of Corfu made […]

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Listen With All of You

Here’s a passage from my book Leap Before You Look.When your partner or anyone close to you is speaking to you, Whether telling you a story, lodging a complaint, or sharing a feeling, Give your undivided attention. Listen with all of you: With your ears, with your heart, with your skin, with your breath. Pay […]

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Great Questions about The Deeper Love

Thank you so much to all the friends who joined us for the Deeper Love Retreat-at-Home virtual launch party last night. Did you miss the call?  You can still listen to the replay.  Register here. We had so many great questions, and we could only get to some of them on the call.  Today we […]

What an evening!

Hey! Did you catch our conversation tonight with Gay and Kathlyn Hendricks?  We loved everything that unfolded. If you missed it, please listen to the replay here. If you were on the call, please post your comments and reactions with the “Add a Comment” link above So much love to you! Arjuna and Chameli