This is an excerpt from my book The Translucent Revolution.
Children are naturally translucent, freshly arrived from and in touch with an inner spaciousness. It is very easy to connect with your child in a translucent way if you are connected with yourself. Many parents talk openly with their children about moments of awakening and involve their children in translucent practices.
“I remember moments I’ve had with my children, both spoken and unspoken,” Julia says, talking about her daughters. “We often look in each other’s eyes, and hold the gaze, just naturally, for long enough that something is recognized between us, outside the game of I’m mommy and you’re a child.”
Once, while I was taking a bath with my sons when they were little, Abhi looked at me with big eyes. “Daddy, I am you, and you are me, right?” I nodded. “And I am Mommy too.” Then he looked at his little brother, not quite one year old. “And I’m Shuba, too, and he is me.” I nodded again. “I knew that,” he said. He went back to his yellow duck.
What we consider to be our most esoteric mystical experiences are intuitive and natural to children. They only need an environment in which their knowing is accepted. Rather than feeling that life as a parent and spiritual life are opposed to one another, it’s a great idea to invite children to join in translucent practice. For example, when I meditate, I do so openly in the living room. Sometimes my boys come and sit with me. They come and go as they please. My oldest son has been “meditating” for years, even though he may not call it that. He has a Buddha statue in his room, and one of St. Francis, and he imitates what he sees around him. We chant mantras together on the way to school. Chameli and I use all kinds of practices with the children to deepen translucence together, and now it is often the boys who suggest, “Let’s do some practice now.”