Focus on Her Pleasure

This is an excerpt from Conscious Men, written by John Gray and Arjuna Ardagh.   When a man watches a woman, or even a couple, having sex on a screen and he masturbates, he will release huge amounts of dopamine, much more than he would with regular sex. During this kind of impersonal sex, very […]

Liquid Beliefs

This is an excerpt from my book The Translucent Revolution: How People Just Like You Are Waking Up and Changing the World.    As we deepen our practice of relaxing, waiting, and not knowing, we start to experience our points of view as if they were a variety of costumes. We dress ourselves up for play, […]

She Talks, You Listen

This is an excerpt from Conscious Men, written by John Gray and Arjuna Ardagh. We have both seen, again and again, that a woman feels more relaxed, more loved and more connected when she can speak freely about her feelings and her man can listen to her. It is not always easy or automatic for […]

How to Discover Your Unique Gift

This is an excerpt from my book Better Than Sex.  The best way to discover your unique gift is to ask the people who have known you for a long time. Ask your parents, your siblings, your childhood friends. You can ask your spouse or partner, your children. These are the people who have come […]


Breaking up with Apple

Tim Cook Apple Computer Christmas Eve 2016 Dear Mr. Cook, First, happy happy Christmas to you and your partner, and to your extended family: both in your personal life and at Apple. Let me introduce myself. I have been a Mac user (perhaps better described as “addict”) since 1985.  I have used your products to […]

Setting Goals and Keeping Promises

This is an excerpt from Conscious Men, written by John Gray and Arjuna Ardagh.   The Conscious Man learns to balance his masculine and feminine sides, which allows him to have awareness of his higher purpose in life in a way that is also sensitive to the changing environment in which he is moving. He […]

The Quest for Wholness

This is an excerpt from Conscious Men, written by John Gray and Arjuna Ardagh. Today, both men and women want to experience a multidimensional, fulfilled life: they both want to have interesting jobs and careers, they both want to create long-term satisfying relationships, they both want to create and participate in a happy family life, […]

Children Are Natural Translucents

This is an excerpt from my book The Translucent Revolution.    Children are naturally translucent, freshly arrived from and in touch with an inner spaciousness. It is very easy to connect with your child in a translucent way if you are connected with yourself. Many parents talk openly with their children about moments of awakening […]

Bringing Forth Your True Sense of Purpose

This is an excerpt from Conscious Men, written by John Gray and Arjuna Ardagh. Researchers like Elizabeth Kubler-Ross tell us that people who have a “near death experience” often describe seeing their whole life flash before their eyes. They realize that they had been chasing all the wrong dreams. Later, they stop pursuing money and fame […]

Explode with Anger

This is an excerpt from my book Leap Before You Look. When you feel angry, resentful,      When you feel that some injustice has been done to you, Stop and breathe deeply into the lower part of the belly. Feel the energy there. Feel the power. Fill your lower belly with breath, And let go […]


Intelligent Trust

At a time of uncertainty and great concern for the future, I have taken solace in the presence of one of my greatest teachers in life. Angel the cat, whose ashram we live in, will be 17 years old in February. Angel spends most of her time just being. She finds a sunny warm place […]