Tag Archives: intimacy
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What to do when someone is upset with you

Before we go any further you might ask the legitimate question,  “What are your qualifications, Arjuna Ardagh,  to write an article on this subject? Are you a psychologist?” “No, I am not.” “Are you a licensed psychotherapist?” No, also not.” “Do you have a Pd.D. in communications?” “Ummmmm.  No, I’m afraid not.” “So what on […]

Couples Puja

  This is a powerful practice to do with your intimate partner. Once you are awake in the morning, Sit opposite each other on the bed. Take turns doing this practice. Look into one of your partner’s eyes. One of you will go first: When it is your turn Express love, devotion and surrender to […]

Give Appreciation

Here is a practice from my book Leap Before You Look: Everyday, make sure you express five things that you appreciate about your partner. You can sprinkle these appreciations throughout the day. Or you can sit down and do them all at once as a structured practice, Which will only take a few minutes. Appreciate […]

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Big Event

In honor of Valentine’s Day next week, here is a passage about sex from my book The Translucent Revolution. All sex, in fact all life everywhere, is about the meeting of masculine and feminine energy, the meeting of consciousness and light. This does not mean that men always represent the masculine, or that women always […]

Ultimate Intimacy

“I love you.” “I hate you.” “I need you.” “I want space from you.” “I resent you.” “I’m curious about you.” We make statements similar to these all the time in all types of relationships. When we speak in this way, it makes it sound as if there are fixed things called an “I” and  […]

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Why It Is Wise to Worship a Woman

A few days ago, after a particularly exquisite evening with my wife Chameli, I put this post up on Facebook before going to bed: “I have had many, many great teachers in my life. A super abundance. No one and nothing comes close to the woman who is now asleep in the bedroom. My marriage […]

Reflections on a marriage…

  My beloved wife of 8 years, Chameli, has left me for the sunny beaches of Corfu. I would feel a lot more upset about this if it would not for the fact that she’ll be back soon, and sends me the most delicious love notes every day. And anyway, I have gone back to […]

Intimacy has been my Guru

I’ve been greatly blessed in my life by being with with many great teachers.  I was close for many years to H.W.L. Poonja (people called him Papaji), and it was he who initially asked me to be a teacher of awakening.  I had some fantastic visits with Urgyen Tulku Rimpoche who was at that time […]