Tag Archives: John Gray
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Brilliant Friendships

A friendship can be all kinds of things. People form friendships to avoid loneliness, to have fun, or out of convenience (like people who live next door to each other). However, there is also a special kind of friendship which we can all develop: one that deliberately and consciously fosters brilliance. You are both setting […]

Let Him Walk Away

This is an excerpt from Conscious Men, written by John Gray and Arjuna Ardagh. When men are in pain, the first tendency is often to withdraw and pull away. It is the primitive reaction of fight or flight. If a man feels trapped, instinctively he moves into defense or even into attack. So if you […]

Focus on Her Pleasure

This is an excerpt from Conscious Men, written by John Gray and Arjuna Ardagh.   When a man watches a woman, or even a couple, having sex on a screen and he masturbates, he will release huge amounts of dopamine, much more than he would with regular sex. During this kind of impersonal sex, very […]

She Talks, You Listen

This is an excerpt from Conscious Men, written by John Gray and Arjuna Ardagh. We have both seen, again and again, that a woman feels more relaxed, more loved and more connected when she can speak freely about her feelings and her man can listen to her. It is not always easy or automatic for […]

Setting Goals and Keeping Promises

This is an excerpt from Conscious Men, written by John Gray and Arjuna Ardagh.   The Conscious Man learns to balance his masculine and feminine sides, which allows him to have awareness of his higher purpose in life in a way that is also sensitive to the changing environment in which he is moving. He […]

The Quest for Wholness

This is an excerpt from Conscious Men, written by John Gray and Arjuna Ardagh. Today, both men and women want to experience a multidimensional, fulfilled life: they both want to have interesting jobs and careers, they both want to create long-term satisfying relationships, they both want to create and participate in a happy family life, […]

Bringing Forth Your True Sense of Purpose

This is an excerpt from Conscious Men, written by John Gray and Arjuna Ardagh. Researchers like Elizabeth Kubler-Ross tell us that people who have a “near death experience” often describe seeing their whole life flash before their eyes. They realize that they had been chasing all the wrong dreams. Later, they stop pursuing money and fame […]

Deep Listening

This is an excerpt from Conscious Men, written by John Gray and Arjuna Ardagh. There are many dimensions to listening. One is just like the sky: to be still and receive. Simply listening to someone sharing challenges and issues may in itself be the solution that is required. Particularly for a woman, when she feels […]

Communication in the Bedroom

This is an excerpt from Conscious Men, by John Gray and Arjuna Ardagh.   We have learned that the most important gift a woman can give to a man is to communicate her needs: to find ways to tell him honestly when she wants to have sex, when she wants to be sensuous and cuddle, […]

Be Present with Your Feelings

This is an excerpt from Conscious Men, written by John Gray and Arjuna Ardagh.    All men have feelings, ranging from shame and humiliation, to anger and outrage, to tenderness and compassion. The primary difference between different men is not what we each feel, but our capacity to be with it and express it in a […]

Emotional Endurance Training

This is an excerpt from Conscious Men, a book I co-authored with John Gray. As we grow more in conscious masculinity, we discover that we can transform pain into pleasure simply by staying present. The charge of negative emotion dissipates just by holding it and by not resisting it. A man who has learned to […]

Growing Through Love

This is an excerpt from Conscious Men, a book I co-authored with John Gray.   When your partner does not have so much to give, it is easy to feel resentful, and this can sabotage the relationship. When we learn to let go of that, her occasional judgments and reactions to you are no longer […]