The Translucent View

I got my initiation into a brave new world a few days before Christmas.  I had driven my son up to a ski resort, and while he was on the slopes, I drove over the pass to the nearby town of Truckee. Around 4 o’clock he called me, saying he was ready for me to [...]

Here’s a passage from my book Leap Before You Look.When your partner or anyone close to you is speaking to you, Whether telling you a story, lodging a complaint, or sharing a feeling, Give your undivided attention. Listen with all of you: With your ears, with your heart, with your skin, with your breath. Pay [...]

Happy Happy Happy Valentines Day to you!!  If you have  a partner you share your life and love with, may you have the deepest and best day of connection ever!  And if you are single and ready to love, may this day be a day of deepening with the Beloved who is soon to appear. [...]

“I love you.” “I hate you.” “I need you.” “I want space from you.” “I resent you.” “I’m curious about you.” We make statements similar to these all the time in all types of relationships. When we speak in this way, it makes it sound as if there are fixed things called an “I” and  [...]

A few days ago, after a particularly exquisite evening with my wife Chameli, I put this post up on Facebook before going to bed: “I have had many, many great teachers in my life. A super abundance. No one and nothing comes close to the woman who is now asleep in the bedroom. My marriage [...]

Here is a practice from my 2008 book Leap Before You Look. When you notice yourself caught up in a feeling, Like resentment, rejection, or despair, Cradle that feeling as though it were a small baby. It may even help you to take a cushion And physically cradle the feeling in your arms. Sing to [...]

Here is a practice from my book “Leap Before You Look.” Whenever there is disagreement or disharmony in the family, Or any time at all, just for the fun of it, Switch to gibberish. You will all continue to communicate And connect fully with each other, You will just stop making any sense. Express everything [...]

For the last 8 years Chameli and I have been practicing and teaching an approach to intimate relationship which we call the Deeper Love. It has arisen one hundred percent out of our own personal experience, and our longing to bridge a schism which can often be confusing and painful. We have taught this as [...]

I’ve been traveling around the world most of my adult life conducting trainings and seminars.  During this time I probably got to hear every kind of story that a human being could tell:  people feel miserable, people think they are enlightened.  Someone is on a winning streak, someone is down on their luck.  One person [...]