Longing for Love


holding-hands2I’ve been traveling around the world most of my adult life conducting trainings and seminars.  During this time I probably got to hear every kind of story that a human being could tell:  people feel miserable, people think they are enlightened.  Someone is on a winning streak, someone is down on their luck.  One person is in perfect health, and another is at death’s door.

John Prine is one of my all time favorite singers, he summed it up beautifully like this:

That’s the way that the world goes ’round!
you‘re up one day,
the next you’re down!
it’s half an inch of water
and you think you’re gonna drown
that’s the way that the world goes ’round!

So, I get to hear every kind of story.  What always touches me the most, what gets my heart every time, is when I meet someone who is single, and who sincerely and deeply has a longing for love.  It’s perhaps the most touching, innocent, raw, simple, and yet explosively potent state of human consciousness.  When we are busy seeking for enlightenment, or when we think we have found it, things easily get complicated.  We create all kinds of theories and concepts.  The same thing happens when we focus on health.  Next time you’ve got something wrong with your body, just ask around and you will find everyone has a theory on the universal panacaea.  But being single, and wanting to share your heart with another is such an innocent, beautiful place to be.

At the beginning of every seminar I teach, I always ask people to take some time just being present with their longing.  To forget about what they think they should be there for, and not to worry abut being “spiritually correct,” but instead becoming simple and vulnerable with the heart’s deepest longing.  There are always a few people who say, “I’m lonely, and I want to love.  I want to open my heart to a relationship.”

It gets me every time.

About eight years ago I came to that place myself, and I discovered we can have many different relationships to being single.  We can protect ourselves against it, “I don’t need anything from anybody, I am complete in myself.”  We can be overwhelmed by it, “Oh, my God, if I don’t find my lover soon I am going to die lonely and shriveled up!”  We can go on a sort of shopping frenzy when we are single: “Let’s party!”  It takes quite some depth and presence to be with the longing to love in a way that takes you deeper into yourself.  To recognize that your true heart is full, overflowing in fact, with so many gifts waiting to be shared.

Over the years Chameli and I have guided hundreds of men and women into the art of being single in a conscious way, that allows you to attract and meet the true beloved.  And, at last count, there are now thirty-seven couples that have gotten together as a result of participating in our workshops.  Not bad, eh?soulmate_secret_smlbookcoverThis Thursday I am going to be in dialog with a wonderful, amazing woman: Arielle Ford.  Besides being the founder of the Spiritual Cinema Circle,  and besides being Debbie Ford’s sister, Arielle has also guided countless people into the art of attracting real love.  Her book The Soulmate Secret is a Bible on the subject.

Please join me in conversation with Arielle Ford this Thursday, October 8th,  at 6pm!


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8 Responses to “Longing for Love”

  1. Lamhita October 8, 2009 at 12:27 am // Reply

    I just Love your sensitivity… around this subjects!
    Thank you very much Arjuna for bringing your heart and gift you
    Love Lamhita


  2. Lamhita October 8, 2009 at 12:29 am // Reply

    And of course the support that you gave me during the weekend at Ängsbacka, probably everyone in ther room signs up on that one!


  3. Lisbeth October 8, 2009 at 2:35 am // Reply

    Thanks Arjuna, even when i am still waiting for my love, i feel my heart full, without sorrow after the radical relase. And thank you for this comming seminar.


  4. Leila Youssef October 8, 2009 at 4:02 am // Reply

    You got me on that one Arjunah, this is exactly where I am right now. I left a message on the registration for the intimacy in relationships teleseminar and never heard from you. I would like you to get in contact please. I have few things I’d like to ask you about


  5. Delphine October 8, 2009 at 5:58 pm // Reply

    I loved what you said about ‘being with your longing’..so often, it is easy to move into distraction. I have done this with many things..but this human longing of the divine touch is equally important when it is for a beloved..both are soul’s longing instead of going into denial or spiritual discipline. Sometimes eating chocolate is the Divine Gift..or longing for it – the call of love itself.


  6. Dawn October 8, 2009 at 6:40 pm // Reply

    “…when I meet someone who is single, and who sincerely and deeply has a longing for love.” This deep, innocent longing to share of our True Nature with another, is not limited to the single set. I’ve been married for 9 years and have moved deeper into this longing each year. Initially blaming my husband, then blamelessly searching outside myself for other avenues to express and connect, yoga, dancing and communing with nature. Ultimately, The Way Is Within. With a “soul mate” or without.


  7. Teresa October 9, 2009 at 9:53 am // Reply

    It sounds beautiful…I missed the conference call. Is replay available?


  8. Anders Rosenberg October 12, 2009 at 10:08 am // Reply

    This longing for love is so true and direct. And it’s so obvious in this song:


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