Tag Archives: John Gray

Emotional Endurance Training

This is an excerpt from Conscious Men, a book I co-authored with John Gray. As we grow more in conscious masculinity, we discover that we can transform pain into pleasure simply by staying present. The charge of negative emotion dissipates just by holding it and by not resisting it. A man who has learned to […]

Growing Through Love

This is an excerpt from Conscious Men, a book I co-authored with John Gray.   When your partner does not have so much to give, it is easy to feel resentful, and this can sabotage the relationship. When we learn to let go of that, her occasional judgments and reactions to you are no longer […]

Get Inspired

This is an excerpt from Conscious Men, a book I co-authored with John Gray.   The quickest way to fall into your Conscious Dharma is through inspiration. It happens when you recognize other people who inspire you deeply, and it happens during the moments in your own life when you feel most inspired and alive. This […]

The Most Reliable Predictor of Brilliance

Since John Gray and I completed our book, Conscious Men, we have started working on several new projects together. Just in case you’re wondering: John is really one of the most fun, generous, intelligent, and kind people I’ve ever met. Working with him is a dream come true. Our next project is called The Conscious Woman’s Guide […]


The Power of Keeping Your Word

This is another excerpt from our new book: Conscious Men, which I have co-authored with John Gray.  Please add your comments and feedback at the end.   *** In order for a man to feel motivated, and to achieve and accomplish his soul’s mission, he needs to be able to make promises that he can […]


When a man (Re)Learns How to Feel Again

This seems to be the summer for a long overdue upgrade on masculinity. I got back from Europe a few weeks ago, and since then the news has been flooded with stories of men, primarily white American men, who have difficulty experiencing their feelings, often with disastrous consequences. On July 10th state trooper Brian Encinia […]


Love is a Practice

This is an excerpt from the new book I have co-authored with John Gray: “Conscious Men.”  It will be out soon. John says: I remember a moment seven years into my marriage. After making love with Bonnie, I said to her, “That was fantastic. It was as good as it was in the beginning.” “Oh, […]


Judgement Day

All kinds of prophecies exist: Christian, Mayan, Hopi and Vedic, predicting that there is going to be a time coming when there is a judgement day: when some people go to Heaven, who are saved, and some people are plunged into great doom. There was a lot of hoopla in the late 2000’s, building up […]

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Give it Your Best Shot Every Time

For the last several months I have been coaching a brilliant young man who works at one of the world’s largest technology companies.  In our coaching we have worked on developing an extraordinary idea, which could change the face of the world.  It is inspiring.  Because he is a little shy, I agreed to go […]

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How to Overcome Burnout: Part 1

I have been coaching people in positions of great responsibility: highly creative people with deadlines to meet, for more than 20 years.  People often think that their worst nightmare would be failure: that nobody buys their gizmo, nobody watches their movie, nobody reads their book, or the investors back out.  But actually, strangely enough, I […]


How I Became a Prostitute

I have just been teaching the “Client Interaction Booster Course” here in Germany. One of the participants asked me a question: about how she gets bogged down in little things to do, and feels overwhelmed, and then feels a sense of guilt if she does not get everything done. I told her that the simplest […]


How to Find and Keep a Conscious Man

During the last one hundred years we have seen a dramatic reinvention of the role of both men and women.  It is hard to believe, but in 1914 women still didn’t have the right to vote, because everybody (men and women) agreed that women didn’t have the intelligence to make political choices.  No-one today, at […]


An Epidemic of Awakening

Two thousand five hundred years ago, there was a prince in India, named Siddhartha. He was destined to be the next king. But he had such a strong longing that he left everything. He left his wife, his young baby, and his kingdom. He went traveling. He tried everything to find freedom, to find himself. […]



I was at a dinner last week with some very smart people. If we had just recorded the evening, it would have made an incredible book or movie. One of the things we got to talking about was what is it that leads to true fulfillment, to ultimate fulfillment, to a feeling that you’re living […]


Masculine and Feminine Practice

Last week we finished a weekend seminar  in Vienna: at one time the home of Mozart, Beethoven, Sigmund Freud, Gustav Mahler and many others. My host took me to Theater an der Wien: the oldest opera house in the city, where The Magic Flute and many other great operas had their premiere. Afterwards we went […]

The Biochemistry of Stress

Most everyone is familiar with John Gray’s book, Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus, which came out more than 20 years ago. It brought the issue of differences between men and women to a much wider audience than had ever happened before, and has to date sold more than 50 million copies worldwide. […]