I found out what true happiness is…



I haven’t blogged for a while, and there is a good reason why. Here it is.

if you have been following my ramblings on line, you probably know that my wife Chameli and I have stumbled upon a way of being in marriage that is something close to a religious experience. We have learned together to drill down through layers of personality and habit, and to discover a dimension of each other which is divine.  Chameli has become not just my wife or my best friend, but my way of meeting God in human form.

A few weeks ago she was having some unusual symptoms, and the doctor sent us to the emergency room for tests. We filled out forms, she got weighed and measured and labeled, they connected her up to an endless array of beeping machines and drew many little vials of blood.  Then we waited, and waited, and waited.   When the young doctor came back he looked serious, unshaven and as though he had been up for days on end surviving on black coffee. He talked about elevated markers for cancer, and the need for an immediate ultrasound. They wheeled Chameli off on a gurney.  She looked up at me and grinned.  “If you’re not careful, you could get really lost in this movie: being the poor suffering cancer patient.”

We waited some more, this time for what seemed like forever.  Once the technician had talked to the radiologist who talked to the nurse, who talked to the doctor, he came back with more papers on his clipboard.   “Of course, the tests are not completely conclusive,” he told us, in the same tone one might talk about the chance of rain when you plan to go golfing, “There is a sizable tumor, and I’d say you almost certainly have cancer.  You’ll need to get referred to a specialist.  ‘OK?’” he smiled, as though waiting for us to say “Great!  Good job, Doc, just like Gregory House!”  He left the room in which we were now both reeling.

As Chameli got slowly dressed, I went out to the corridor to breathe and reel some more. There was our young doc, looking through files, no doubt getting primed for his next bad news speech.  He must have been exaggerating, I thought. After all, tests are not accurate.  “Excuse me…”  I started, “can you tell me a little about the chances of this being serious?”  I guess I thought that by asking for a second opinion, even if from the same doctor who had only just given the first one, I might get better news.  “Based upon the blood count, the size of the tumor we found, and other factors, I’d say the cancer has almost certainly spread to other organs.  97% likely it is terminal.  Best that you make your preparations.”

We went home.  That weekend was unlike any other.  Chameli started to talk about the book she wanted to complete, while there was still time.  I did my best to stay optimistic and cheerful, till deep groans of pain would erupt randomly from the pit of my belly.    I have known people with terminal conditions, and I’ve know the people who love them. I had sympathized, I had compassion.  But never till now did I know what it would be like to face loosing the one you love completely.  Over the weekend, through the tears and the terror, we also dropped deeper into relishing what is right here.  Sipping a cup of tea together,  the dimples in her cheeks when she smiles, the little inflections in her Norwegian accent, the slow walks in the evening air, everything became magnified.  The temporary nature of our time together, which of course had always been a reality, was now flashing neon before our eyes.

And then, on Monday morning, Chameli woke up, and looked at me with unwavering clarity.  “I’m not choosing to be in this movie,” she announced.  “I know that nothing is solid, nothing is fixed.  I know that I am healthy and I will live a long life.”  With that she jumped out of bed and made herself a green smoothie: cucumber, parsley, spinach, celery, spirulina, coconut juice in the blender. She consumed nothing else for the next two weeks.

I sent word out to close friends, asking them to hold a vision of Chameli being in radiant health.  We also called upon the two very powerful healers we know.   Chunyi Lin is a Chi Quong Master from China, the author of the book Born to Heal.  He had already turned around many other friends “terminal” diagnoses.  Deirdre Hade, the creator of Radiance Healing, also has a reputation for creating miracles with long distance healing.  Chameli talk to each of these extraordinary people almost every day.

Healers like these don’t talk so much in terms of “cancer” or “not cancer.”  They are able to read patterns of energy in the body, and to see when it is blocked or flowing.  Neither of them ever gave a fixed diagnosis, as a western doctor would.   When they both started out with her, they could both see something there,  but neither of them labelled it as cancer.   Within a few days they both saw these energy patterns shifting.  Deirdre taught me how to practice these healing techniques on Chameli myself.  We could both feel the power of it.  Chameli felt her organs jumping, vibrating, becoming suddenly hot, as they went through their transformation.

When we went to see the surgeon the next week, it was a whole different movie we were in.  His office suite was painted in pastel colors, lots of nice art and sculpture: it felt like a high end resort.  His manner was way beyond mellow.  Later Chameli was convinced he had been digging into the prozac, I assumed he was a closet long time meditation practitioner. He did more tests, he looked at the old tests, with his calm presence he said “It really could be anything.  There is a cyst there, but until we take it out we won’t know what it is.”  His twinkly eyes conveyed the excitement and suspense of an Easter egg hunt.

The surgery was scheduled for the following week.  I sat beside her as they marked up her body to prepare her for the scalpel.  A procession of people came by to do their thing: the nurse, the anesthesiologist, the surgeon, and then more and more nurses.  On the surface, they were all there to heal her.  But another current was also moving underneath.  Chameli was so sure now of her determination to be healthy and happy and whole that she had become the source of healing in the room.  They came busy and serious, with a forced jolliness.  Her gratitude and grace made them all mushy, so they left laughing, and I suspect they never knew why.

They gave her the first injection and wheeled her away into a restricted area. I heard her giggles echo back to me as she gave in to the drugs.

They had told me the procedure would be about an hour, “unless there are complications.”  This seemed like a very long time to cut her open, whip out a little lump and sew her back up.  I assumed they’d come get me much sooner. So what do you do when the one you most love is being cut open behind closed doors, and there is no way you can do anything to help?  I went to the garden and practiced chi kung.  The first hour seemed like several days.  Then I sat still and watched the insects buzzing around the flowers, as I watched my thoughts, like unruly school children, running between best case and worst case scenarios. By the time we were well into our second hour, I knew we must have entered the dreaded land of complications. Every TV hospital drama I had ever seen replayed before my eyes:  hemorrhaging, lines that should have little spikes going suddenly flat, people in  masked coats running in with even more beeping machines. Then the doctor walking away despondently.  “I wish I could have saved her.”

After two hours I could take it no more. As I walked back into the waiting area, the surgeon came out, still dressed in his surgical gear, and a plastic hat like my mom used to wear in the shower. He looked very serious and tired, and pulled me aside away from everyone else.  Now time had slowed down to about one second per hour.

“The operation went quite smoothly,” he said, avoiding my eyes.

“The cyst came out quite easily.”

“We sent it off for biopsy.”

“And just got the results.”

Will you please, please stop talking in slow motion!  Tell me, tell me, tell me.  Pleeeeeaaaaase!

“It was benign.”

I thought I knew what happiness was before that moment.  but now I knew for sure.  The Beatles will tell you that happiness is a warm gun.  Hallmark greetings cards will tell you that happiness is doing kind things for small cuddly kittens.  I now know for sure what true happiness is.  Happiness is “My Wife Does Not Have Cancer.”  I grabbed that highly esteemed and highly paid surgeon and kissed him on both cheeks.

Not only was the cyst  benign,  the doctor said it had probably been with her since she was born, and had been growing there her whole life. Chameli stayed in the hospital for two days.  Everything was sweet and kind and lovely.  Flowers were bright, smells were sweet, and the birds sang all day.  She was on massive doses of pain killers, which caused her to drift off and talk to Tibetan deities and mythological figures.   She came home and went to bed for two weeks with her whole library of tantric Goddess scriptures and reruns of Sex and the City.

We’ll never know for sure what was real and what was not out of all this.  Perhaps external things are not so hard and fast as we might believe, they only become solid when we make them so.  Perhaps things are waves, capable of being anything, until we need them to be something. Perhaps cancer, and financial challenge, and relationship conflicts, and all the other challenges we face are in a dream we are dreaming.  We try to change the dream, but the art is to change the mind of the dreamer.

I grew up in England, in the Anglican Church.  The Hymns and Psalms and prayers are all in my blood. The other day I remembered the 23rd Psalm.

Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death,
I will fear no evil: For thou art with me;
Thy rod and thy staff, they comfort me.
Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies;
Thou annointest my head with oil; My cup runneth over.

These weeks have been our hiking trip through the valley of the shadow of death. We come away with so many souvenirs.   Even though our crisis has passed, I can’t lose the recognition that all this is very temporary.  Whoever we love, whoever we are attached to, the clock is ticking every day.  Sooner or later, someone will die, and someone will be left behind.  Chameli and I find ourselves relishing small things now.

I emerge from the valley having taken a big step to believing in miracles.  Today, just today, I have my wife.

My cup runneth over.

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101 Responses to “I found out what true happiness is…”

  1. David May 30, 2011 at 11:47 pm // Reply

    I’m blown open … here, now. Thank you.


  2. Anastasia Stamos May 31, 2011 at 12:11 am // Reply

    I am so happy for both of you , happy that you get to continue your magnificent love, that has so much in it for everybody.
    Congratulations and the best health ever, to both of you.


  3. Greg Turner May 31, 2011 at 5:51 am // Reply

    Arjuna – Thank you so much for sharing your experience and its lessons. All this is very powerful. For me, the ultimate lesson is “Perhaps external things are not so hard and fast as we might believe, they only become solid when we make them so. Perhaps things are waves, capable of being anything, until we need them to be something”. I would love to say more, but words are failing me. Thank you.


  4. Monica Katarina Frisk May 31, 2011 at 7:51 am // Reply

    Beloveds, thank you so much for this. My heart did stop for a while in the beginning reading, but now the sun is out again. I love you Chameli, I bow for you. I love you, Arjuna.
    This is life, open intelligence as it is …


  5. Ville Frisk May 31, 2011 at 8:27 am // Reply

    Wow, what a journey man, thanks for sharing. And welcome back from the edge, Chameli!


  6. Jolene May 31, 2011 at 8:29 am // Reply

    So happy for you both! Thank you for the gift of your experience. That first doctor should take one of your classes to get a better perspective on I-Thou!


  7. Vickie Barber-Ellis May 31, 2011 at 8:40 am // Reply

    Lovely Arjuna! I hope you don’t mind if I share this poem with you:

    And deep, into the shadow they step,
    Knowing not whether dream or reality,
    But knowing choice must be made,
    Which of the paths to choose,
    Of this world or that which is beyond sight.

    It is quiet here, in the Divine presence,
    Where fear does not console,
    But Love guides and provides that light,
    Where shadow becomes the brightness,
    Where death becomes life.

    In this Presence where fear is relieved,
    Where sickness becomes health,
    Where our stories created by imagining,
    Melt simply into Love.

    ∞Vickie Barber-Ellis


    • Susan Evans June 1, 2011 at 6:47 am // Reply

      So Beautiful. Thank you Vicki. Can I share your poem with others?

      Susan Coppage Evans


  8. cicisez May 31, 2011 at 9:54 am // Reply

    Dear Ones, I am so pleased to read your post and hear the GOOD NEWS – which of course started with Chameli deciding she was well. We have been sending love and light since I ran into you Arjuna in Briarpatch that fateful day. Thank you for sharing your experience with me/us and blessings to you both in your/our continued journey together.

    CiCi & J


  9. Jackie Walker May 31, 2011 at 10:38 am // Reply

    I cried reading this. What beauty. This is sent with much gratitude for you sharing your story.


  10. Kit Walker May 31, 2011 at 12:48 pm // Reply

    wow Arjuna, amazing. and the way you wrote this, very touching, very lovely. bless you both, much love.


  11. Sharon Lippincott May 31, 2011 at 1:08 pm // Reply

    Life is a riddle. Do you suppose, just possibly, that you took this hike so you can reassure us that it’s more than okay to choose not to be in that movie? That things are only real when we choose to make them so?

    THANK YOU for sharing this amazing flash memoir! I’m so grateful you will both be around to continue inspiring us for a good long time to come.


  12. Jo May 31, 2011 at 1:33 pm // Reply

    Wow what an amazing story .. I just held my breath as I read ..and now I am going to give my husbacnd a big hug and tell him how much I love him and how grateful I am for the wonderful God given marriage that we have !
    Thank you x


  13. suitablefish May 31, 2011 at 2:02 pm // Reply

    What words: Today you have your wife. You have each other in deepest love.

    Thank you, Arjuna and Chameli for sharing your story with such heart.

    I’ve been dealing with Chronic Lyme for what is too long. So, tomorrow I jump out of bed and say, “I’m not choosing to be in this movie. I am healthy.” Again. Rejuvenated.

    Love and Best Health, Susan


  14. MaryLynne May 31, 2011 at 3:11 pm // Reply

    “I am not choosing to be in this movie.” What a gutsy realization and resolve!

    Reminded me of this definition of “Valley” found in Science & Health by Mary Baker Eddy.[referring to:’Though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil.’

    “Though the way is dark in mortal sense, divine Life and Love illumine it, destroy the unrest of mortal thought, the fear of death, and the supposed reality of error.”

    I love her definition of “Miracle”: “That which is divinely natural, but must be learned humanly…”

    Thanks for sharing this beautiful experience and proof of what IS real. You are both an inspiration!


  15. cb May 31, 2011 at 3:35 pm // Reply

    Lost two familly members to cancer in the last month and found this post incredibly touching.
    Thank you


  16. Dave Ellis May 31, 2011 at 4:09 pm // Reply

    Thank you for sharing this wonderful story and for taking on your life so fully.

    Big hugs,



  17. Susan Evans May 31, 2011 at 4:28 pm // Reply

    Thank you Arjuna for sharing this. It is deeply moving and I am grateful- for you and Chameli and for what you have shared with Leon and me. Grateful also for the opportunity to be awake and to choose not to be “in the movie”.



  18. Joan Doyle May 31, 2011 at 4:54 pm // Reply

    I share in your joy !


  19. wilsontsl May 31, 2011 at 5:05 pm // Reply

    The things that are dearest to our souls are that which teach, test n break us down to vulnerability, helplessness – time n time again until we can call upon the complete surrender n trust of that which binds us all – unconditionally, universal grace that which we all are.

    Much love, so moved n touched by this event, brother.


  20. Nishkala May 31, 2011 at 5:10 pm // Reply

    This brought back recent memories and I could so relate to your experience Arjuna. While it all unfolded perfectly as it should for you both, it nevertheless amazes me how Drs. make these terminal pronouncements that aren’t fact..

    For my husband, as it tuned out, it was his time… and while that was by far the greatest challenge I have faced –meeting my greatest fear, the thing I most didn’t want to happen to my beloved… out of that dreaded experience, there has come such grace and depth of love, of presence and trust.. a transformation like no other… And I feel his (Dasa’s) presence now more palpably than when in form.

    And I am glad for you both it turned out as it did.. thank you for sharing in the beautiful way that you do.


  21. Suzona May 31, 2011 at 8:15 pm // Reply

    Thank you Arjuna!
    Bless you for transparent, humble sharing, and thus teaching and leading.
    Blessings & prayers for Chameli to fully recover and be in the movie of her choice!
    You two are prime examples of God & Goddess fully embodied……more LIGHT to you!
    Love & peace be with you,


  22. Blake Steele May 31, 2011 at 11:20 pm // Reply

    Amazing love story, just going deeper in the real stuff. Who said it was all about spiritual practice as if that was something apart from the real dramas of life, love and loss. May the Shepherd continue to hold you two innocent, wise ones in hands of healing Light.


  23. Anne Solveig June 1, 2011 at 1:22 am // Reply

    Thankyou so much.. this will remind me how precious life is and being together with someone you love…you two are so great and inspiring…Love Anne


  24. Linda Carrington June 1, 2011 at 4:58 am // Reply

    Love, Peace, and Blessings, abound. You are both so beautiful. Thank You, Divine.
    Life is not just good, it’s fantastic.


  25. Jane Anne June 1, 2011 at 6:47 am // Reply

    I, too, had an encounter recently with a few doctors who declared that I was going to die and that I wasn’t going to get better… ever. After reading this account of your and Chameli’s similar experience, it dawned on me that perhaps what the doctors told me was actually a gift in that it propelled me to develop the resolve to prove them wrong. Today, 6 months later, I have beaten all their odds and put them all to shame. I know that I am truly blessed to have a consciousness that was able to withstand and re-direct their doomsday declaration into a heightened healing experience on all levels. Yes, the mind can be changed to become a wonderful servant that, like the genie in the bottle, can 3 dimensionalize our wishes instead of just carrying out orders imposed upon it from outside influences…We are Source and we DO have the power to determine our own destiny! Thank you for sharing.


  26. savannah June 1, 2011 at 9:14 am // Reply

    The power of Love triumphs once again. Beautifully told story of how the great Transformer wields miracles.


  27. Ewa June 1, 2011 at 3:18 pm // Reply

    I feel so much love for you both.
    You are roadmodels for true love embodied…
    And we know nothing about tomorrow -THIS is what IS. Thats all. Love Ewa


  28. Ulrike June 2, 2011 at 3:31 pm // Reply

    Dear Chameli, dear Arjuna,
    first shocked! Tears were running – could not believe what I was reading!
    And then felt such a grace when reading about Chameli’s commitment and decision for life. This is so powerful. And I am glad you did so, Chameli – I would really miss you, my dear sister.
    Thank you, Arjuna, for sharing all your feelings in this process, I was so touched by your honesty. Sometimes it’s good to know that mentors and teachers are also “normal” human beings and not beyond human feelings.
    Thanks a lot to both of you for this gift, I really appreciate it.
    Blessings and love for you and your precious work!


  29. Mary Elizabeth June 2, 2011 at 10:22 pm // Reply

    Dear Arjuna and Chameli,

    What a beautiful story. So happy to hear the tumor was benign and you are better, Chameli. Your relationship is such an inspiration.

    Love to You,
    Mary Elizabeth


  30. Elf June 3, 2011 at 9:16 am // Reply

    may miracles come your way, Arjuna and Chameli.
    thank you for sharing your testing.
    glory to God. God gives life and takes life and gives us a hint of memento mori at times.


  31. Lindsay June 3, 2011 at 11:10 am // Reply

    I am moved to tears. Such a beautiful blessing. You remind me that my own difficulties are not fixed, but malleable.
    Many good wishes for continued radiance.


  32. Susie June 3, 2011 at 11:57 am // Reply

    Thank you. I too am moved to tears. I want to give my husband the biggest hug and thank the Divine for him. Blessings to you both.


  33. queenyellowsun June 3, 2011 at 10:13 pm // Reply

    This is, as always, so timely with my current life works. Many years ago my husband was killed by what was diagnosed as cancer and ended in the doctors killing him through surgery and chemotherapy. I have been working on a blog all this month about the ‘cancer industry’ and my feelings against chemotherapy- as well as natural alternatives to curing cancer. I gasp aloud when I read your posting because your blog (life) has always been in perfect step with my life since I found you. As a healer myself, I know the conventional medical field has many things to improve upon AND I’m just so thankful your story turned out so positive. Many stories don’t turn out positive and my heart longs for them. I pray everyone can take their power back to heal themselves and to rely on misinformed doctors less. Rejoice in the Goddes!, Namaste, Natalie YellowSun
    (i would love to hear from any of you…)


  34. Mahana June 4, 2011 at 5:11 am // Reply

    touched deeply & so very glad, i bow to you, beloved Chameli, to the Goddess, great Spirit, the Mystery keeps unfolding
    love & gratitude


  35. Kamala Joy June 4, 2011 at 1:34 pm // Reply

    What a beautiful story, Arjuna and Chameli and beautiful creating. Exactly what I would expect from you – laughter, love and healing right now.


  36. Dawn Breslin June 5, 2011 at 5:23 am // Reply

    I’m crying. God bless you both, what a frightening time. I hope that the sun is caressing you both in Greece.
    With so much love.


  37. Kallan June 9, 2011 at 5:27 pm // Reply

    thank you so much for sharing this. Blessed be to you both LOVE


  38. Maria June 9, 2011 at 7:32 pm // Reply

    Oh you two sweet beings! Thank you for sharing your story. Healing blessings,
    light and love,


  39. carmilla5 June 9, 2011 at 7:34 pm // Reply

    Arjuna & Chameli wonderful to read. I love the statement about not wanting to be in that movie, perfect. Our lives are shifting & changing so quickly, glad you’re with us on the journey, much love, Lise xxx


  40. Gloria June 9, 2011 at 7:43 pm // Reply

    You feel like family to me now. How sweetly intimate this sharing is for me. Much love to you and Chamile. Thank you for reminding me of what is important and how precious our time together truly is.

    Love and Gratitude,


  41. Suzanne Holman June 9, 2011 at 7:43 pm // Reply

    Arjuna, I appreciate that you shared this powerful story.
    I am SO happy for you both that Chameli is doing well!


  42. Gloria June 9, 2011 at 7:46 pm // Reply

    Thank you for your beauty, courage and inspiration, dear Arjuna and Chamile. You have blessed me with the sweet intimacy of your story. I’m so deeply grateful. You have given us so much..such grace.

    Love to you both…



  43. Melissa June 9, 2011 at 7:52 pm // Reply

    Much Love and Light to you both and thank you for sharing such a moving and profound experience with us all. I am deeply happy for you and grateful to you for sharing your vulnerability and wisdom. Love.


  44. Ále June 9, 2011 at 7:53 pm // Reply

    Thank you for your courage to share your life so openly, to teach and to be the light in this world. Blessings to all the healers and masters who are always with us guiding our path. Congratulations on your bravery and your healing. Love is Victorious and conquers all.


  45. Karen Nancarrow June 9, 2011 at 7:59 pm // Reply

    What a truly beautiful story. You are both so truly inspirational. Thank you for sharing.

    With love,


  46. Dana Lynn June 9, 2011 at 8:12 pm // Reply

    This truly is a lovely story and Thank you for sharing Arjuna. I feel that their were a number of miracles that transpired through this experience to bring forth the gifts of love. There really is only this moment… to share… to appreciate… to respect and to be. And it sounds as though your wife is a very wise woman, one that took the moment and held love… everything in love is healthy… and alive with joy, beauty and happiness. THANK YOU FOR THE GIFT THAT YOU TWO ARE !!!
    with love,
    Dana Lynn


  47. Peter Herriger June 9, 2011 at 8:27 pm // Reply

    Thanks for this great value of sharing your life situation and congratulation to the state of recovering! Wish you both all the best, longevity, lots of love and light


  48. Shelley Cummins June 9, 2011 at 8:29 pm // Reply

    Thank you ~ both of you ~~~ you are meant to be here and a gift to us all ~ I love you ~ Shelley


  49. sallymaria June 9, 2011 at 8:53 pm // Reply



  50. joanini June 9, 2011 at 8:57 pm // Reply

    Yes! love is all there is!
    Thank you both for sharing your journey.
    For many, your “movie” and the sharing of it will allow
    many to entertain the notion that choice and the flow of
    the divine, and the possibility of miracles is very, very real.
    I believe your sharing will be most encouraging and
    again, deep gratitude for your articulate and moving post.
    Live , love and prosper,


  51. Anya Flannery June 9, 2011 at 9:06 pm // Reply

    Having lost a daughter, I have lived with this sense that each moment is precious and that realization has become a hallmark of my life. There are so many gifts in your experience, so much grace and beauty and truth, so much to share with each of us that we can call upon in our own hour of need. Thank you both, for being the teachers that you are. Blessings Be.


  52. ILLONA June 9, 2011 at 9:21 pm // Reply

    Blessings to you both. Am so glad to hear of the outcome. Courageous Chameli–such a beautiful model for us.

    Life is rich. . .every second.


  53. Beata June 9, 2011 at 9:24 pm // Reply

    Thank you Arjuna for your authentic transparency, There’s nothing like profound loss ( or the threat of one) to blow open the Heart. I am so glad to hear this episode of the story had a happy ending. Sending much Love and Light,


  54. Jen Klarfeld June 9, 2011 at 9:32 pm // Reply

    Dearest blessings, love and thanks, Arjuna & Chameli:

    I am now contemplating a new addition to the four major LIFE initiations: birth, adulthood, marriage, and “death.” It is most fitting that you remind us all of the most major initiation of all: AWAKENING! Thanks Coach!

    Eternal LOVE and Grace… may we share this with all whom it will transform, uplift and awaken.


  55. Linda June 9, 2011 at 9:34 pm // Reply

    I am very moved by your story, by your engagement in life and relationship and by your love for one another. I, too, went through a big scare when a routine mammogram was read as “abnormal,” leading to a 7 month period of “not knowing,” only to eventually find out I was healthy and okay.

    I appreciate the raw feelings of terror that this kind of medical shadow brings forth. I was particularly terrified I am a sole custodial single mom, and my son was just turning 14 at the time of the crisis. I would have loved to have a devoted partner walking beside me during that passage and today. And perhaps, God will be kind enough to bring me a devoted partner today or tomorrow.

    However, I am grateful for my health, and the lightness that came after a biopsy revealed that I was totally okay. I still get a knot in my stomach whenever I need to go for routine or extra-cautious check-ups. However, I continue to embrace my life and the people in it, live fully, and thank God for every healthy day I walk this planet.

    Life is a gift to be savored. Love is a gift to be savored.

    May both of you continue to savor your lives and love!



  56. uliai June 9, 2011 at 10:15 pm // Reply

    o u beloveds !
    truly continuing the deepening into the present ~ the presence of all that is !
    congratulations for passing thru this valley in such an epic way , , ,, .
    love always


  57. Coach Louise June 9, 2011 at 10:22 pm // Reply

    Blessing Arjuna. Thanks so much for sharing your touching and heartwrenching story. 🙂 May you both live in good health, love and joy.


  58. Susan June 9, 2011 at 10:22 pm // Reply

    I deeply appreciated reading your story. I have been in a 3.5 year health challenge of which 2.5 years was walking thru the valley of the shadow of death sicker than one could begin to imagine. Finally from not being able to work, I have lost everything, all back-up plans gone, used, dissolved, etc. But I have surrendered to the final fear of, what if I’m homeless and sick. I don’t energize this nor do I want it to happen but rather I have completely let go of what I cannot control. From letting go, ego is seen rather than masked. I’m realizing all is an illusion and what’s real is one’s formless, eternal Self. I love more. I am present now more than before. I look into people’s eyes and really see them. I have come to experience that living in uncertainty is the most powerful place to be becasue when the ego can’t “fix” it and when I surrender, I can see the Divine who was there all along. Ever notice how the Divine doesn’t get caught up in all the drama? Life is really lived moment by moment, isn’t it?
    Again, thank you for sharing your beautiful story.


  59. Michael Erickson June 9, 2011 at 10:56 pm // Reply

    As a Reiki practitioner, I’m not surprised at the outcome of this story. By choosing “not to be in this movie” and doing what was done, coupled with clear intention, success was achieved. It’s available to all, and now that you’ve experienced it, I’d submit, there is no going back. Good going, the evolution continues…


  60. a-spiritual-journey-of-healing.com June 9, 2011 at 11:17 pm // Reply

    Dear Arjuna,
    A moving and beautifully written account. Thank you for sharing your raw humanity. Thank you for conveying the quiet strength with which Chamili disciplined her thoughts and feelings to fall in line with the vision she held of health, but doing so without sending out any over simplified conclusion that such health is always acheived.
    I lived 14 years bedbound with severe CFS/ME, with a commode by the bed and needing to be fed by carers. Today I walk and talk again. Yes, I disciplined my mind to focus on health. But the gift I received is the moments in which I surrendered into the knowledge that THERE IS NO ILLNESS, there is no body. This is a dream we are dreaming, and behind this seeming reality – this shadow of the valley of death – is the LOVE that underlies all things.
    “I have no fear, for You are with me”
    WHATEVER happens to the body, we are as God created us.
    Thank you and sending LOVE to all,


  61. Angela Ellis June 9, 2011 at 11:29 pm // Reply

    Love Love Love…..love is all you need…love is all you need ..love is all you need ..love is all you need …love is all you need…..and you two have it in abundance….to quote the Beatles…..Love Love Love
    May the entire creation of God’s universal love flow in and around our planets and our peoples and like the moon and the stars and the sun….may we all shine on….I feel another Beatles song coming on…..Here comes the sun little darling xxxxxx


  62. ebba hermelin June 9, 2011 at 11:33 pm // Reply

    Thank you Arjuna. Thank you very much for sharing this.

    It is very beautiful of you.

    I am so happy you both are well and healthy. And for the love you two express.

    I have been through cancer, it is not very nice , I have felt falling down down down , like into something endless, somewhere of total emptiness and in the same time feeling the end.
    The psalm you mention have been with me all these years.

    Still everything is sort of being a part of life, I don´t know how to explain it. For me cancer was like the awakening, was the beginning of the path home to myself.

    Lots of love from Ebba in Sweden.


  63. Alan Gerbracht June 9, 2011 at 11:57 pm // Reply

    My heart is with you & Chameli. And I will remember you at the oneness deeksha in Tampa, 11/07. I long for the love I see that you have. So much love I see that you share & that is out here from your readers-friends. We are blessed by who you are & we draw closer to you & are uplifted by your courage, love, & sharing. Are we not your soul family? I feel that way with you & Chameli & all here! Our Beloveds.
    Blessings, alan gerbracht


  64. crystalcag June 10, 2011 at 1:14 am // Reply

    Thank you for sharing this with us. Your love and light shine through so brightly !!! thank you. My heart opens more and more – the more I realise reality is a choice. I had a brush with cancer a few years ago and I now look back and realise it brought me closer to the things and people I love and closer to myself and being in this life. I’m so grateful for the gift. Thank you for yours.x


  65. Maria June 10, 2011 at 1:24 am // Reply

    Dearest Chameli and dear Arjuna,

    what you went through the Great, great Spirit only knows! I congratulate Chameli for her courage, her loving consciousness, her ability to stay present and her being connected with the deeper realm of who we truely are then that made it possible, that she choose life and blossoming up again instead of terror and devastation.
    Bless you Arjuna for having held Chameli with your love and for having shown to us once more what love really is capable to show us in unexpected and sometimes very tremendous ways!

    All the best to both of you, much much love!


  66. lydie June 10, 2011 at 2:08 am // Reply

    Thank you …


  67. susanfurness June 10, 2011 at 2:26 am // Reply

    Thank you so much for sharing this moving life experience, so full of life lessons. And for reminding us (in your second paragraph) that in others we see ourselves; in the depth of others we find the Divine-God. Bless you both. Bless us all.


  68. Wendy June 10, 2011 at 3:28 am // Reply

    Thank you for sharing this extremely grizzling experience!
    I myself have been living with breast cancer for the past 6 years and have always believed that only I myself can heal myself, despite what doctors say. Since January my faith in my healing has been put to a hard test and I have often wondered whether to give in to the urging of the medical side to have the breast removed, which most certainly would entail things like chemotherapy etc.
    Your story has once more reminded me that it is my choice whether I agree to be “in this movie” and that healing is something that has nothing to do with doctors’ diagnosis of “terminal” or suggested treatment.
    Even while reading I couldn’t believe that Chameli would succumb to the devastating diagnosis and I am so glad and grateful that your story has a happy end.
    Both of you are an inspiration to me of what a loving partnership can be and I believe through sharing this experience with us all you both become an even greater inspiration of the infinite powers of the divine within us all.
    Blessings to you both and Namasté


  69. foenix June 10, 2011 at 3:33 am // Reply

    lyght and love from vienna. magdalena


  70. Hannah June 10, 2011 at 4:12 am // Reply

    Thank you so much, Arjuna. Sharing openly and honestly our experiences leaves me deeply touched and filled with gratitude. Knowing that I have cocreated this enormous challenge which in the end turned out to be a blessing leaves me saying:
    I am sorry
    please forgive me
    thank you
    I love you.


  71. Premin June 10, 2011 at 4:14 am // Reply

    Amazingly touching. Thank you Arjuna.


  72. Laura June 10, 2011 at 4:53 am // Reply

    Amazing and inspiring story. Thank you for sharing this story. It is yet another reminder to me.. as you wrote so beautifully…”The art is to change the mind of the dreamer!”. I too have seen miracles, and they are the direct result of this art. Best wishes to both of you!


  73. Nixie Graham June 10, 2011 at 6:22 am // Reply

    WOW! What an incredible story. Heart wrenching, deeply moving, hugely inspiring. Thank you for sharing. WOW!


  74. Sherri Hayter June 10, 2011 at 7:03 am // Reply

    Thank you for sharing this deeply inspiring and touching story. It is amazing how truly fluid our existence is, how the power to create anew is within each of us and how alive being faced with such adversity we become.
    Blessings to you both!


  75. Geraldine June 10, 2011 at 7:43 am // Reply

    You both are very courageous to share this story so openly. My very best to both of you. Geraldine and James (Alexandria, VA)


  76. wanda June 10, 2011 at 8:05 am // Reply

    Beautiful, fierce light and love in that photo of you Chameli, and in your beloved Arjuna’s recounting of this story. Thank you to both of you for radiating another burst of love into the world of physical form.


  77. Diana Ravagli June 10, 2011 at 8:30 am // Reply

    For some yrs now I’ve had a vision -the vision of a perfect relationship; I say perfect because without lacking challenges, and as a matter of fact because of the challenges we become even closer. A relationship so unique and so profound that it touches the hearts of those who witness it form near and far. An exchange where the sacred energies dance to unite and create abound the beauty around -a portal to bliss.
    I have been refining that vision for the last few yrs while I was changing everything about my life and then I came across my vision personified showing me the validity of its existence and I found you and Chameli, and Gay and Kathlyn’s love.
    My love and gratitude for you and Chameli has been with you since and my gratitude for the consciousness you hold.
    Your sharing of this experience highlights SO much at different levels, which is very timely for me as well. I sat in tears, laughter and a roller coaster of emotions with these events and my heart rejoices for your accomplishments. I root for Chameli for being the Divine woman she is!
    Gratefully and with loving thoughts of both of you…
    DR ♥


  78. Kaye Leeson June 10, 2011 at 9:16 am // Reply

    Your belief in Spirit has given many back their faith….Your movie is a hit..!!! Bless you both for this huge gift from God..!! It is so easy to get caught up in the old program..This proves we can throw the old program away and create the outcome that we chose..!! Another reason to stay in meditation…and prayer….You both inspire me..!!!! Kaye Leeson


  79. elizabethpowers June 10, 2011 at 10:28 am // Reply

    What a powerful account of your experience Arjuna. It was spellbinding and from the beginning, I knew in my heart that all would be well. including Chameli! Love triumphs over fear…every time.


  80. Robert GrayWolf Valčić June 10, 2011 at 1:00 pm // Reply

    Thank you and great respect. 🙂


  81. Jim Ross June 10, 2011 at 1:10 pm // Reply

    This uplifts me. My nephew Andrew Rundle has been given the label of Ewing’s Sarcoma, a teenage dis-ease, by the medical establishment. I am holding him in the light along with my Sis and her other 5 children and husband as they walk this path.

    Please hold them there as well. We all appreciate it.
    Smiles, Jim Ross


  82. Dana June 10, 2011 at 1:19 pm // Reply

    There have been 5 deaths in my circle of family and friends, one just four weeks ago, in the past year. How wonderful to read of your wife’s good outcome through this cancer “scare”.
    I’m happy for you both. Thank you for sharing.


  83. riccineer June 10, 2011 at 3:12 pm // Reply

    Thank you for sharing your beautiful story. I love the marriage model that you are experiencing and emulating for the world to see. Thank you for inspiring me to envision and experience the same for myself. Love, Ricci


  84. Matilde Agar June 10, 2011 at 3:17 pm // Reply

    Dearest Chameli and Arjuna,

    My heart is overflowing with love and gratitude for you. You enrich our lives being just who you are. You inspire us all to the Greatness that resides within. Endless thank yous and blessings for the gifts you are – teaching us to BE ALL we can BE. My heart holds you in Deep Love. Matilde


  85. loveworksforyou June 10, 2011 at 4:10 pm // Reply

    Sweet, beautiful, moving, deeply loving. I have tears in my eyes, appreciating this moment of being alive through your miraculous story. I love hearing your “knowing” that this is all just a story, a fluid ever-changing dream that we can impact with love and attention. Blessings to both of you! So happy you have more days to share your love for and with
    each other, and with the world….


  86. Georg June 11, 2011 at 7:13 am // Reply

    Thank you for sharing this amazing story!
    I am deeply touched!


  87. Lydia Cornell June 12, 2011 at 10:17 am // Reply

    This is the Truth of being. I was raised in Christian Science (not to be confused with scientology), and am astounded at how wonderfully it works. It is the same as this article; Divine Science is the PROOF of what you are saying, and Quantum Physics is a good way for Atheists to look at the laws of the universe: harmony, math, music, love… another avenue which explains the spiritual, molecular, non-solid basis for matter,

    In Christian Science, a healer works only on your fear and mortal mind, the small, false mind. Healers don’t need oils and candles and tools, but if they make you feel better, it’s ALL GOOD.

    It is so wonderful! The good news is keeping your thoughts on the ‘beautiful, the good and the true” is what Christ came to teach us mainly. It is waves and particles, exactly the same thing as this, but we can live above the mortal realm and experience heaven on earth, by seeing “God” as LOVE, all in all, and step outside the limited human race belief in limitation and the Adam and Eve myth. It starts with knowing that we are already whole and spiritually perfect. I have used a C.S. practitioner and miracles (natural laws) have abounded in every part of my life. Thank you


  88. Lydia Cornell June 12, 2011 at 10:21 am // Reply

    And thank you for sharing your beautiful healing. It brought tears to my eyes of joy. You have found the key!
    Luv xo


  89. elysabeth June 12, 2011 at 2:47 pm // Reply

    thank you so much for sharing such a personal and beautiful story. may the angels bless you always!


  90. heartfulSoul June 12, 2011 at 11:38 pm // Reply

    posted on my faceBook page, 0241PM


    I now know for sure what true happiness is. Happiness is “My Wife Does Not Have Cancer.”
    Whoever we love, whomever we are attached to, the clock is ticking every day. Sooner or later, someone will die, and someone will be left behind. We find ourselves relishing small things now.

    Arjuna’s article:


  91. Mary Allen June 13, 2011 at 2:09 pm // Reply

    Wow!!! My heart goes out to you and Chameli. SO glad to hear the positive results of this emotional journey. I can only imagine how tough it would’ve been to be in both of your shoes during this time.

    Sending you both lots of love and support!

    PS: I met a friend of yours this weekend… Luis 🙂


  92. Manali Shah June 14, 2011 at 2:08 am // Reply

    Very very happy for both of you! Lots of love and ((((good vibes))) to you!!


  93. CAMILLA HERNANDEZ June 14, 2011 at 5:49 am // Reply



  94. KTGarron June 17, 2011 at 3:34 am // Reply

    I just posted the following text on my fb page:
    “Nothing has any meaning other than the meaning you give it.
    There is only one Peace, and you are that Peace.
    When you get it, really get it, how long does the realization last?”
    Your touching story is exactly what I was writing about. My question goes beyond awakening to one’s true self, it has to do with seeing the truth and taking responsibility and the action that goes with that responsibility–to bring about lasting change. I think most of us get it and then when times get tough we forget it. What you and your wife did, and are continuing to do, is truly and illuminated example that we can all follow.


  95. Vitskaia June 18, 2011 at 3:51 pm // Reply

    May you both have continued Happiness and Health! Thank you for your story.

    “The eye through which I see God is the same eye through which God sees me;
    my eye and God’s eye are one eye, one seeing, one knowing, one love.”
    > — Meister Eckhart


  96. Fabiola June 26, 2011 at 6:25 pm // Reply

    (¯`•♥•´¯)☆ ♥
    ☆ º ` `•.¸.•´ ` º ☆.¸¸.•´¯`•♥……………………….


  97. gail June 26, 2011 at 8:35 pm // Reply

    Thank you for sharing this miracle! Blessed be.


  98. katrin July 1, 2011 at 8:30 am // Reply

    Dear Chameli, dear Arjuna,

    a woman of my templegroup recently sent me the report on Chameli’s ”illness”. Yes, that’s indeed the way it is: we can decide if we want to stay in the movie or get out of it.
    Unfortunately, ”cancer” is an illness which triggers a lot of fear and most people know far to little about it.
    Well informed gynecologists for example have been warning of mammography screening for more than ten years. 80 percent of the tumors which are diagnosed by screening are already in a process of healing or completely healed and encapsulated! If she would be left as she is, the woman could be in good health.

    Dr. Ryke Geerd Hamer has been researching on this topic for more than 30 years and has been treating 65.000 cancer patients. 60.000 out of 65.000 are still alive. Unfortunately Dr. Hamer has been taken away his license to practice in Germany ”because he was not willing to convert to orthodoxe medicine”. He now practices in Norway and has many students who treat cancer patients according to his approach and who still do research.
    It is my concern to spread this knowledge and I have the deep wish that people get informed before they become ill. Because once an illness is diagnosed the fear is so big and often a treatment has been initiated before we are able to find our own way to deal with it.

    On the following website information about Dr. Hamer’s method can be found:

    I am so grateful that you share your experiences with us and I am looking forward to see you, Chameli, at the Chiemsee in July.

    Blessed days and best wishes from the heart,



  99. Crystalline Ruby Muse July 12, 2011 at 10:36 am // Reply

    Arjuna ~

    I am wondering, were you paying the healers who helped you, or were they doing it in friendship? I am dealing with some long-term, chronic illnesses myself (they are not life-threatening at the moment, thank the gods). I have a phenomenally healthy diet, a deep spirituality, & an ecstatic marriage. I have been trying to heal myself naturally, holistically, but can’t tell if I’m making any progress. (I actually studied with Chuni Lin, Spring Forest Qigong 1 & 2, some years ago.) I am not currently in the financial situation to afford outside help.

    I am so happy to hear that your lovely wife got back her health, & I wonder if you could offer any suggestions to someone like me, who struggles just to pay bills (we are actually currently homeless & unemployed though doing everything we know to get ourselves in a more palatable situation). Thank you for your time & your inspiring writings.




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